A lot of people who are successful in kicking old bad habits often claim that they took years, or even decades, to finally be free.
But that is not exactly true.
People very often take years or decades to get ready resolve a particular problem. And when it finally happened, it occurred in a split second.
This is sometimes due to life-threatening events or just a sudden flip in mentality.
For example, I’ve met various people who quit smoking in an instant when woke up at the hospital after suffering from a cardiac arrest. There are also those who woke up from bed and lost the the urge to smoke altogether.
While it might not be fair to compare anxiety attacks with something like smoking, the point is that mind has the power to make these changes.
It’s all a matter of deciding to do something.
And how people make these decisions for themselves with absolute conviction is to see or experience for themselves, the pain of not changing.
If anxiety attacks in the past has not given you enough reason to DECIDE to remove anxiety from you system, then maybe looking at the negative effects it has had in your life might provide the source of motivation to do so.
It’s about finding a source of emotional pain that is more painful than succumbing to anxiety. And letting that pain convince your mind that not allowing anxiety attacks from occurring is the way to go.
Some people fear financial loss most. Some fear a loss of reputation and the perception of them by others. Some only fear how their mother would view them.
You need to identify where that pain is to use it in your favor.
This can be done by documenting your experiences and events when anxiety was triggered. And looking into the negative implications that giving in to anxiety has given you.
As you would be starting this exercise for the first time, at this point don’t think about cures or remedies. This is just a phase of learning more about yourself.
The information you collect about yourself would be able to guide you on what to do next.
Write down your feelings, thoughts and physical experience when anxiety was triggered.
How has it cost you? What has it cost you? Has it costs people around you too?
What caused anxiety
For example, maybe the last time anxiety paid you a visit was when you were so nervous with a sales presentation that you froze on the spot.
The reason you reached that stage might be that you were too self-conscious with how people might perceive you.
Maybe you have burdened yourself with too much expectations, including needing people to like you.
Maybe you have very ugly slides backed up with lousy data to support your presentation. Making you too embarrassed fearing that people might call you out.
Maybe there was someone in the meeting who you want to impress badly and that pressure has got to you.
How it affected you
The result of your anxiety could have cause a very awkward presentation that didn’t impress anyone.
In fact, the only questions people have about it were not about the sales numbers, but about what the hell got into you.
Allowing your anxiety to take hold of you have caused you to present yourself in an manner worthy of a rookie. Not someone who is supposed to be a senior at work.
You might have even said things that contrast with the information contained in your colorful charts and graphs.
Costs of succumbing to anxiety
Unless you are making the presentation to a customer who decided to terminate the contract with your employer after witnessing your meltdown, the actual costs of anxiety can be difficult to quantify in exact numbers.
But there are various intangible costs that are going to impact you whether you like it or not.
Maybe your boss would look pass you for the promotion. Maybe he would note your shocking performance down so that he remembers it during the next appraisal. Maybe your colleagues would be making fun of you when they are having lunch without you.
Maybe, maybe, maybe.
The ultimate costs could then be financial losses that would cause your to skip the annual holiday trip, being late on the mortgage, having to take on more debt, etc.
If you can document these things down, you might get a much clearer picture of how exactly anxiety can actually cost you in real life terms.
You mind might then find them too painful to allow from happening again, and decide to put anxiety in the back burner and enable you to live a less stressful life.