5 Ways To Distance Yourself From Worries

Sometimes whatever we do and whatever positive mindset we have cultivated in our mind, there is still no escape from our worries.

We can never totally annihilate worries from our minds. Even the cookie jar down to it’s last 5 pieces can leave some of us in a tight fix.

Well… at least when we are unable to blast worries into thin air, at least there are some things we can do to distance ourselves and escape it.

1) Distraction

The brain is not programmed to focus on 2 things at the same time. It just cannot work that way unless you are a genetic genius.

This means that by distracting yourself with something else, your mind will inevitably wander off from your worries.

The distraction will be even more powerful if it requires you to engage with it physically.

When we are physically involved with an activity, the mind needs to call on it’s survival and safety instincts to keep you safe. This further dissipates the worries clinging onto your head.

Try watching your favorite TV shows, playing computer games, reading a book, housekeeping, etc.

2) Exercise

When your body is trying to cope with the punishment you are delivering through exercise, it has little time (if any at all) to think about anything else.

Not only does exercise keep you away from harboring negative thoughts, It enhances your overall body health as well.

  • Running
  • Cycling
  • Gym
  • Tennis
  • Badminton
  • etc

After exercise, your body would also release a hormone called endorphins. This is a substance that helps reduce stress.

3) Confide

A lot of times when we have problems on the mind the size of Godzilla, what we really just need is a listening ear.

Not just any ear, mind you. The ears of people close to you is what you want.

The therapeutic effects of being heard feeds a psychological need to be understood.

You might think that your problems are unsolvable or that you already have the answers to your problems.

Yet just talking about it with someone you trust can give you a clearer mind and make you feel better. You might even find a better solution suggested by the listener!

4) Humor

You probably don’t need reminding about how big or small your issues are.

So why not make a joke out of it?

Gather your funniest friends and tell them how ridiculous and stupid your worries are. This sets the tone for the comedy to come in.

Before you know it, your friends have come up with 10 angles on how funny your situation is. And you could be laughing yourself silly from them.

Friends are the best at making things seem simple. Make use of them.

5) Relax

When we feel tension physically on the body and mentally in the mind, our worries seem to magnify.

You might actually have a simple situation that did not turn well. Yet your body and mental condition just made you think about it in it’s most adverse way.

Get a massage, visit the spa, listen to some calming music, get some sleep. Try some breathing exercises if you can.

4 Tips To Use Humor And Laugh Away Stress

There is a lot of truth in the saying “Laughter is the best medicine”. This is even more so when the condition you are trying to cure is related to mentality.

You are never going to be happy when you take life too seriously. That can only guarantee a spike in your stress levels.

There always a side of humor to even the most serious subjects and situations. And when you are able to pivot mindfully to see the funny side of things, the toughness of life can be that little more bearable.

While common sense tells us that a joke in a tense situation can lighten the mood and dissipate the chaos going in your head, there is actually a little science to it.

I don’t know if this was endorsed by Doctors. But research has shown that laughter:

  • Relaxes the muscles in the body
  • Blood pressure and heart rate slows right after laughing
  • Endorphins are released by the brain promoting a calmer state of mind
  • Enhances general immunity
  • Reduction of stress hormones
  • Creates detachment from stressful thoughts
  • etc

Do you need anymore reasons to make life more fun, funny, and enjoyable?

Here are 3 simple ways to add more laughter in life.

1) Framing and reframing

Do you remember a time when you were a spectator in an event when someone was speaking on stage? His presentation was so bad that found it hilarious.

That was your perspective.

Can you imagine the amount of anxiety the presenter was feeling while up there? His mind must be tumbling all over the place from the mistakes that he was making.

This is a concept that you can embrace.

The next time you get into a stressful situation, look at yourself from a third person point of view. You might actually chuckle uncontrollably at the comedy you are creating.

For example, when you mess up your slides at a meeting presentation, imagine how funny you would have looked in the eyes of the participants in the room.

Nothing bad is going to happen. So don’t take yourself so seriously.

2) Surround yourself with funny people

There is something magnetic about people who make others laugh. They just always seem to never be alone.

It’s not about charisma or leadership. It just them having a sense of humor that others enjoy.

You should surround yourself with, or be around, funny people. They never seem to have a bad day. Ever!

Not only will be be keeping a check on your stress levels. But when you pick up the skills or techniques of being funny, others might start flocking to you instead for fun!

Getting such attention can even reverse your stressful lifestyle to one that is happy all the time.

3) Think about the timeless jokes you have experienced

Off the top of my head, I have about 5 past experiences that are so funny that I cannot stop laughing the moment I think about them.

I’m serious. Even after so many years, I still find them so hilarious that my eyes get wet sometimes.

I’m absolutely sure that you can recall at least a few of these occurrences in life that made you more than just smile.

Nobody said that you are not allowed to re-live those moments and have a big laugh over it all over again. In fact, use them every time you feel depressed.

Maybe it’s a scene out of a famous movie. Maybe it’s a time when your best friend fell into the lake. Or maybe it was one of those pranks you did in college. Replay them in your head and let yourself go.

4) Youtube

If you need to call on the Calvary, look no further than YouTube.

Search for anything and include the word “funny” in your search phrases and you will be sure to see a few funny viral videos pop up.

Youtube is truly a lifesaver in terms of stress management.

Just be wary of how much time you spend on it. Losing track of time is one of the drawbacks of being on that portal.

Before you know it, you might have spent an hour or 2 on it.

Humor is one of the best, if not the best, ways to alleviate stress. It’s free and irresistibly contagious. Tap on this natural remedy to make yourself feel better.

The Pros And Cons Of Anger

Anger is often associated with negative connotations. Yet is it not all bad.

Some of the most successful people I’ve personally met have little to no reservations to unleashing their anger. The is management and how to harness the power of it.

Everybody experience a bout of anger every once in a while. And many feel embarrassed and even ashamed whenever they display it.

It is important to understand that anger is not all bad. There are good elements to it as well.

Positives of anger

If given a choice, I would bet that people would choose to feel angry rather than depressed.

And that is not without reason.

1) Feel alive

As perverse as this sounds, anger can actually make you feel alive.

Your senses heighten. Your fear of being judged diminish. And you are suddenly not afraid of telling what you think as it is.

You become… in the moment.

2) Feel powerful

As a lot of people have either a hold on their anger or a high ceiling of tolerance, most people will not challenge your anger with anger in return.

In fact, somehow we tend to assume that the sensible response to an angry man is to stay calm and be accommodating.

This lack of aggression by other make the angry person feel powerful like an alpha male gorilla thumping his chest.

What a wonderful feeling.

3) Get results from intimidation

As mentioned previously, most people would accommodate those that are angry.

Just look at the customer service centers for mobile phones. The louder a customer argues and the bigger the scene is made, the more likely the store manager would be to offer a truce discount of maybe 10%. 😀

When things don’t go your way, throwing your rattle out of the pram can often work in your favor.

4) Not a pushover

I always felt that standing up for yourself is an important aspect of life in every area.

But a lot of people determine that standing up for yourself is about getting angry!

There are various ways to present yourself when standing up for yourself. But evoking angry while doing it can often serve as a warning to others not to try taking advantage of you again.

This behavior is rampant in corporate offices. I can attest to that.

Negatives of anger

As you can see, there are some very convincing reasons why anger is embraced by some people especially in the line of work.

But even so, the negative aspects of anger greatly outweighs the positives that can be extracted from it.

1) It can make you sick

Getting angry can trigger a flurry of physiological reactions. And not only can is cause an immediate problem in extreme circumstances, it can also have long term effects on the body.

  • Cardiac arrest
  • Passing out
  • Stroke
  • High blood pressure
  • Mental conditions
  • etc

There is actually a lot of science behind this.

Ever heard of the saying “Making my blood boil”? Maybe there is some story behind it.

2) Heart problems

The cardiovascular system becomes vulnerable whenever we get angry. I don’t think we need proof to conclude that.

But if you want to know the specifics, anger increases blood flow to muscles, spike levels of adrenaline, jacks up cortisol, etc.

Even though heart diseases are usually attributed to cholesterol levels and unhealthy habits like smoking, having anger issues does not exactly give you a good base to work with.

3) Causing pain to people around you

It’s bad enough is you have a tendency to physically hurt people when you get angry. But the more painful part is the emotional and psychological damage you put on family and friends.

It’s no fun being around people who gets angry all the time over minuscule issues.

Friends and colleagues start to avoid you and gets too uncomfortable in your presence to be themselves. You start to strain relationships that would take a lot of time to mend, if ever.

That’s just your friends. You family has it worse.

You wife or husband is stuck with you. And the only way to cut ties should you continue with your ways is a divorce.

And what about your children? Is your anger creating a conducive environment for them to grow up into responsible adults?

Your family would be suffering so much pain. Yet have limited options for action. Even you probably won’t want to live under these conditions.

4) Shorter lifespan

Research has shown that people suffering from anger management issues have a shorter lifespan.

Is that not enough to convince you that a change might be necessary?

Appropriate use of anger

Anger is a very powerful emotion that can cause complete chaos.

But if you learn how to channel that anger into a drive to achieve, you could find all the motivation you would ever need to be a stand out success in life.

And in the world of negotiation, sometimes anger can be a very effective tactic to slip onto the negotiating table.

This is probably why counselors and professionals treating victims of anger often don’t go about trying to totally eliminate anger from a sufferer. They only attempt to train him or her on managing it.

6 Tips – Basic Guideline To Stress-Effective Eating

The this modern face-paced world we currently live in, almost everything around us can add on extra stress on our shoulders.

Sometimes this can even include everything that is NOT around us!

But there is a more natural and more primal stress that affects every living thing. And that is food. Specifically, the need for our body to consume food to survive.

This is the most basic instinct that everyone will understand since birth. When we get hungry, we eat. It’s as simple as that.

If you have never experienced a prolonged period without food, lucky you.

It is not an episode you’d want to live through as hunger can really stress you out and even cause you to hallucinate!

As we grow up to become able adults, somewhere along the line, the stress associated with food is not so much as whether you will have anything to eat. It becomes more about what types of stress-inducing junk you are putting into your body.

Most people feel that stress is a mental condition and can be conquered with pure willpower. Yet these people are often the ones who suffer most when under the intoxication of stress.

What they don’t realize is that stress is not all about the mental and the intangible. The food we put in our mouths can have a massive impact on how well we cope with stress.

What you eat, when you eat, and how you eat can have an influence on your mental state whether you notice it or not.

Low stress foods

Here is a basic guideline to eating well.

1) Complex carbohydrates

With the fanfare surrounding the Paleo diet in recent years, a big number of health conscious people see carbs as the devil in terms of fitness and weight loss.

I kid you not.

I have a friend who would suffer from anxiety attacks and squeal like a claustrophobic victim when in the presence of complex carbohydrate foodstuff like pasta, noodles, brown rice, potatoes and sweet potatoes, etc.

This is partly due to the popular dieting trend of avoiding carbohydrate-rich food.

However, foods rich in complex carbs can raise the serotonin levels in the brain. Making your feel better by altering your mood which is a major factor in how you handle stress.

Saying that, too much complex carbs might not be good too. Because if you get overweight for consuming too much complex carbs, it might actually add onto your stress levels as you have a new problem to manage now.

Don’t need avoid. Eat in moderation.

2) Simple carbohydrates

There are complex and simple carbohydrates.

There is a scientific explanation to this. But for basic understanding, let’s just say that complex carbs are much harder for the stomach to digest while simple carbs are easier to digest.

The simple carbs I’m referring to are sugary foods, especially those contained in processed food.

The edible products we find in supermarkets these days are no longer what they used to be.

These days, big food companies compromise on quality in order to produce the most delicious food, at the lowest cost, and within regulatory guidelines. So they add an insane amount of additives like artificial sweeteners and emulsifiers to replace real food and condiments.

The most common additives are MSG and any form of sugar.

Sugary food can arouse a short term boost to your mood. But it is never a solution for the long term.

No need to panic. Reduce and avoid if possible.

3) Protein

With the rise of fitness and bodybuilding in the last 20 years, protein has becomes a mass market product. It has become the buzzword of buzzwords in the bodybuilding circle.

Protein is a muscle builder.

But more than that. Adequate amounts of protein helps in mental functions and repair cells.

Good sources of protein inlcude

  • Chicken
  • Fish
  • Lean meat
  • Tofu
  • etc

Consume an adequate amount and avoid deficiency.

4) Vegetables

A healthy overall diet requires a balanced nutrition plan. This is where vegetables rounds everything up.

  • Carrots
  • Brocolli
  • Green leafy vegetables
  • Beans
  • etc

It is important to not just be healthy. It is also important to feel healthy as well. The better you feel physically, the better you manage stress.

The more the merrier. Just don’t go overboard.

5) Fruits

The main benefits of eating more fruits are for the absorption of vitamins, minerals and anti-oxidants.

Without going exotic, have your fridge moderately stocked with basic fruits like:

  • Oranges
  • Apples
  • Grapes
  • Pears
  • Blueberries
  • Avocado
  • etc

Fruits should never replace proper meals. They are most appropriately consumed as a night snack or an after-dinner finishing move.

6) Potassium

It’s kind of odd that Potassium is classified as a metal on the Periodic table. We put them into our body for circulation each day!

But on a serious note, potassium is a mineral that helps muscles relax… which is exactly what you need if stress is a problem.

  • Bananas
  • Milk
  • Whole grains
  • etc

Eat in moderation. Too much potassium can be bad for your body.

Stress is not just an issue of thinking too much. In a lot of cases, physiology can play a major role in how well you manage it.

In certain cases, physical health can even be a trigger of stress.

The sooner you commit to a healthier diet containing a balanced overall meal plan, the better your chances of sticking it to stress.